Have you ever sat at a bar, looked over, noticed a nice young lady sitting on the other end? Your eyes lock, you stare and flirt at each other for the whole night, but you never get up from you damn seat to go say hello because you’re too scared to approach her? More than likely, the answer to these questions are yes, and yes.

We’ve all be down this road before. We’ve been at the bar, enjoying a delectable alcoholic beverage, watching some TV or reading a periodical; we glance over, notice a pretty young lady, and like an idiot you do nothing! Fear defeats confidence once again!

What’s the best way to approach a woman in a bar? We’ve all asked this question. Should you cliché yourself, and send her a drink, if so, what drink you send? You don’t want to be El Cheapo, and send some watered down, no frills, version of a martini. On the other end of the spectrum, you don’t want to send her Dom Pérignon Rosé either and look like your Mr. Money Bags. Sending a Screwdriver would probably send the wrong signal, and have missy thinking you’re some kind of sex pervert, and cranberry juice & vodka is just plain out of the question!

Or, should your forgo the liquor mail, walk your ass over and just talk to her? The direct approach. Decisions, Decisions, Decisions!!!

Well, never fear, Krush is here! Here are 5 tips to make the first approach of a woman painless.

1. Make eye contact.

This is probably the most crucial of all 5 steps. No sense in going through all this trouble, and come to find out she never noticed you existed. You want to be certain she’s interested. So if you glance over a couple of times, and she glances back (obviously without a “Who is the creep?” look), you’ve set the interest.

2. First line's will make or break her impression of you.

Think of a witty, not goofy, first line. Something that would give a giggle, but not a ball out laugh (Although ball out laughs have been known to get you past first base). You want to scratch the surface, not gouge a hole. You don’t want to walk on over and say something stupid about her legs being tired, and her running through your mind. You might as well transcend back to the 1970's and ask her for her zodiac sign too. The first line is a tactic to see if she’s receptive to your intelligent humor, and too see if she’s really interested, not to see how fast you can lose a woman.

3. Do your homework.

Find out from the bartender what drink she’s been ordering, and how many. If you find out she’s been knocking back more than 2, RUN LIKE HELL!!!! Check out her body signal, and body movmennts. Do as much research as you can before taking the plunge.

4. Keep yourself calm.

BE COOL! It’s impossible to shake off all nerve, but you can keep yourself calm, cool and nimble. However, it’s been my experience that women like to see a little nervousness in a guy. It shows a sort of softer side to a guy, and gives the impression that we're trying our best to get their attention. Which is ultimately your goal.

5. Take the plunge!!!

You're now prepared. You've caught her attention, got that killer first line, did your research, and wiped the sweat from your forehead. Walk on over, slide that drink, and lay down the best first line you can possibly think of.

Follow these few tips, and you’re sure to make a lasting first impression.

Krush out!